Change…real, lasting change…is hard. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you something.
Are you the type of person who gets all revved up and excited about making a change, only to fizzle out shortly thereafter? And then you wonder why things didn’t work out this time…just like last time?
Yeah. Me too.
The reason I tend to fall short time and again is because change is an every-single-day-no-excuses sort of thing. When you commit to something, be it a new exercise program or organizational plan or marriage, you literally have to work on it every single day. Forever.
Meanwhile, I’m all about putting the effort in today. Maybe even tomorrow if I feel okay. But…like…three months from now? Seriously? I’ll still be doing this?
(Except for the marriage thing. That doesn’t bother me.)
This is toughest when it comes to changing my thought patterns. Anyone who has ever struggled with an eating disorder, chronic illness/disease or depression knows how thoughts can be their biggest enemy.
Well I deal with, or have dealt with, all of the above. I’m an over-achiever.
It just so happens, though, that I believe our thoughts influence our entire lives.
What we focus on is what dominates our lives, not the other way around. What we resist, persists.
If we focus on negative things, if we carry bitterness or resentment or anger, that’s literally all we’ll see around us. And what we see will only reinforce our core belief that yes, life totally sucks.
We all know a person like that. That person who takes everything, from a rainy day to a long line at the grocery store, as a personal issue. Who makes sure that everyone around them knows how miserable their life is.
And, lo and behold, that is always the person bad stuff consistently happens to.
No one feels good, inspired or energetic after spending time with that person, do they?
The alternative, then, is to be as much the opposite as possible. Grateful, energized, plugged in to life.
And so minute by minute, thought by thought, I’m working toward change. Love. Acceptance. Energy. Abundance. All that sparkly, jazzy, amazing stuff that makes life awesome.
And to that end I’m working on the new movement I’ve dreamed up, where we encourage each other to make choices every day which nourish and benefit us. I want to spread the good feelings, the positive vibes.
But change is hard. When you break it down to a thought-by-thought process, it’s really hard.
I can start a day off feeling positive and loving and very saintly (well maybe not saintly)…then someone irritates me or acts like a jacka** and BAM! My thoughts become a bit more…unloving. And if I’m not careful it all snowballs and before I know it I’m a huge ball of angry.
It ain’t easy.
Still – nothing worth doing is ever easy, is it? And every new moment is a chance to get it right this time.
Are you working towards changing some aspect of your life? Tell me about it, and how you stay on track – or if you need a little help from time to time.
And while you’re at it, join my #HonorMyself movement! Every Monday I’ll be posting about the positive, loving choices I’ve made and plan to make for myself, and I want you to share your own ideas. Let’s spread some self-love and change the world, one choice at a time.
Sharing this with my beautiful friend Shell over at Things I Can’t Say.